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| Here are sample Topic Areas addressed in handouts. | ||||||||||||
| Leading
with Confidence; Dealing with Confrontation |
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| Leadership Today | ||||||||||||
| • Good
leaders in corporate America are different in
how they can and need to act. You need to do
what the good ones do if you want to become
one yourself. • First of all, to be a leader, you have to get people to want to follow you. To do that you, have to be someone worth following. To be worth following, you need to be a leader inside and a leader on the outside, e.g. substance and style that works globally, not just in corporate America. • Leadership on the inside requires you “Expect Acceptance.” Expecting acceptance requires that you think and tell yourself, “I’m adequate”…and that you behave like you are. • Leadership on the outside requires you “Give Acceptance,” too. Treat others as though they are adequate, too. |
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| The Good Leader’s Style of Confrontation | ||||||||||||
| • First
rule: Maintain esteem -- yours and theirs. • Theatrics are required. You have to have a confident, non-confrontational physical presence. You need to stand tall, straight, and smile. • Question: Don’t accept; don’t assume. Ask with “cheez whiz” on your face and “pass the salt tone of voice” • Use humor: Be good natured and of good cheer…even when others aren’t. • Touch: Use the right attitude and the right technique. Touch literally and figuratively. • Initiate confidence before you feel it. Initiate confrontation before you have to react to it. Put fear aside or at least out of the way and seize the moment. It’s up to you (sorry to say!) to be a leader and deal with confrontation. No one will do it for you no matter how much you deserve it. |
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The “Essential Six” for your own Executive Charisma with Debra Benton |
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The definition of Executive Charisma: The ability to gain effective responses from others by using aware actions and considerate civility in order to get useful things done. (The last piece of the puzzle for executive growth and personal happiness.) |
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| 1. | How to initiate | |||||||||||
| • Put
your fears aside or at least out of the way.
• Seize the moment; take some – almost any – action . • Be consistent. |
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| 2. | How to expect acceptance and give acceptance | |||||||||||
| • Tell
yourself, “I’m adequate”.
• Think to yourself about others: “They are adequate too”. • Choose and control your perspective vs leaving it to chance. |
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| 3. | How to ask questions and ask favors | |||||||||||
| • Choose
your words and tone carefully. • Ask: Would you do me a favor? • Keep things simple. Be specific. |
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| 4. | How to stand tall, straight, and smile | |||||||||||
| • Do
with what you have. • Lift up, suck in, and breathe. • Relax your jaw, keep your lips apart, and turn up the corner of your mouth. |
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| 5. | How to be human, humorous, and touch | |||||||||||
| • Cease
dealing role to role and seek affinity. • Have the right attitude; use good technique. • Do it when others don’t; don’t overdo it. |
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| 6. | How to slow down, shut up, and listen | |||||||||||
| • Think,
prioritize, and choose. • Execute. • Have a mnemonic device to keep you on track. |
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| Complete the puzzle | ||||||||||||
| • Do
the opposite • Practice • Now’s your chance . . . for your own Executive Charisma |
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Contact
Mary Reed, International Sales & Marketing
- inquiries@debrabenton.com |
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PLEASE NOTE: We answer every e-mail that we receive. |
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